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  • Trust your gut – as seen on Quora

    Trust your gut – as seen on Quora

    This is a short, but still important post for a change. I previously wrote about the importance of your gut feelings, because they show you the right way in your life.

    In sync with this and as a confirmation, I came across this beautiful statement about the same principle (found on Quora).

    If a business deal feels bad, I don’t do it – even if it shines on paper. If a person seems deceptive, I don’t trust them – even if all the rational evidence seems otherwise. On a positive note, if something feels absolutely right – I dive in 100%.

    Julie Gurner

    If had more than a share of these bad experiences myself. Only a few of these people were really deceptive. Most of them were very kind. But still, often my gut was telling me that the outcome would not be quite right.

    In some business meetings for example, my gut told me that one of two persons sitting in front of me would be a GOOD match. Whereas my gut told me, that the other person WOULDN’T be such a good match. And his gut probably also told him the same.

    And this tricky combination then turned out not in favor for all of us. The result was quite some hardship and stress.

    So please. All of you out there. Spare yourself these kind of struggles. Instead, follow your gut and listen to it when it longs for something else!

    It will lead you to a more peaceful life – just keep going in it’s direction. And you will feel that things can and will get easier over time. There are many people who feel that way and have experienced it.

    Good luck on your journey and comment if you like.

    Sebastian

  • Give Astrology a try – it’s totally worth it.

    Give Astrology a try – it’s totally worth it.

    In reaction to my first post on Astrology, a follower named Hans on my blog’s Facebook page reacted irritated and told me that it doesn’t work in his oppinion.

    I can’t blame him, because I was a skeptic for a long time, too. In reaction to his comments, let me share with you how I came in touch with Astrology and how it developed for me over the years.

    First, my dear mother had a natal birth chart analysis done for me, when I was a young kid. I don’t remember that I read it back then, but I kept it in a folder for over 30 years. Some years ago, I came back to it again and found content that very much resonated with me.

    So, I feel, you don’t have to understand why or how Astrology works. There are expert for that. But, you can simply have someone else create an analysis for you and then see, what rings true for you at that point in time.

    And as I said, sometimes it can take years for you to find those hidden gems. An Astrologer recently told me, that a birth chart analysis can be a beautiful companion over the course of your life. And that it’s only natural – just like it is with books – that one only takes a couple of insights away each now and then.

    To give you an example: I recently had an analysis done for me which was around 20 pages long. At this point in time, I mainly took away three important lines that showed me something that I found very helpful. And I will get back to the report at another point in time in the future to find out more.

    What I want to say by that is, that you don’t have to start out big. Go with whatever feels right to you, but please 🙏😇 … just be open that there might be some value in it, even if you can’t see it right away.

    Regarding good astrologers. Here comes a list of ones that I find useful. You can have a look at their websites and pick the one who feels right for you at the moment.

    So here’s the list. English ones first:

    And now the German ones:

    If you want to find out more about Astrology or about these helpful people, either contact them directly or send me a message.

    Take care and I wish you a insightful journey, Sebastian

  • The beauty and necessity of new beginnings

    This is a personal story, but one that doesn’t only relate to me, but to many of us. So I think, it’s rather important to share it with you. Because only if we open up to the world – meaning the right people, please don’t open up to strangers who might hurt you – can we start to heal each other and make our journeys easier.

    So, here’s the story: I’ve been running in the corporate “hamster wheel” for about 15 years. Close to the end of this period, my body started shouting louder and louder that there was something wrong – our body talks to us, we just have to listen.

    I had some people in my life who pushed me further along this hard road. This was important for some time, but then I ran into a brick wall.

    My body shouted S.O.S. on many channels. Not over night, but steadily increasing over the years. The pains got stronger and stronger and finally I ran into a standstill – too many of them to explain here. Finally too much to handle them on my own.

    Then, luckily people came into my life – some of them were already there, thanks to those who I mean 🙏😘 – who showed and reflected to me that I was under way too much pressure and stress. This sort of “mirroring” is essential … so, listen to the people who point you towards your “issues” and please, don’t ignore them. As I opened up to these people, I slowly but steadily understood that I was in a situation that just didn’t serve me any longer.

    So, thanks to the advice of my experienced general practitioner, I went into psychoanalysis (thank you Mr. Freud and more importantly C. G. Jung – they did important groundwork in the field of psychology). In this therapy setting, I finally found a place where there was NO pressure… What a relief, I can tell you. With the wise and caring old lady, who was my therapist, I could simply be myself; with all my perceived flaws. And she started to show me the way towards freedom.

    I mean … depression (from which I suffered at that point) is not a flaw. It’s a desperate cry of the soul, signaling that it suffers from to much pressure or wrong circumstances which drag you down. So please, don’t judge people with depression. They first need understanding and then HELP to get out of their situation.

    Don’t get me wrong, too much understanding doesn’t serve them either. They need to show some effort, too. Things don’t happen on their own. But the meaning of depression, is – at first – simply that … “Get out of the pressure” .. de – pression.

    So a couple of months into therapy, I told me therapist that everything I ever wished for was vanishing. I was really desparate. Then she told me something very import and hope instilling that will stay with me forever:

    Sebastian, yes, your old dreams are falling apart …. but – when you keep going in the right direction – (see my post on the importance of gut feelings) then new dreams and hopes will appear.

    The wise old therapist lady (thank you, dear helper in dark times)

    Back then, in this phase of darknes,s that sentence was an important lighthouse for me. And she was right. After a challenging but worthwhile journey, I got stronger and stronger by the years. The darkness started to fade away and what my therapist told me … became truth. 😊 New dreams – ones that I didn’t even had in mind back then – started to appear and still do.

    The inspiring author and teacher Rebecca Campbell writes about this in her book “Light Is the New Black“. She hit a similar – but different 😉 – brick wall and also after a journey, could let go of the stuff that kept dragging her down.

    And Rebecca is absolutely not the only one. There are many, many more on this planet (lot’s more than you might think … you are NOT alone). This pattern of crisis and then finding hope, is a very common life pattern among us people. American author and spiritual writer Richard Rohr perfectly describes this pattern in his excellent book “Falling Upwards“.

    He also says, that when you slide into a crises, it’s time to leave the bad stuff behind and let the good stuff come in. So the downfall – in reality – is not a failure of yours, but a necessary phase which want’s to show you (big time): “Hey please wake up my dear. There’s bad stuff in your life that no longer serves you! Let it go!”.

    Richard Rohr says, that when you get rid of this junk (which doesn’t happen over night, but it does, when you keep at it), then new and helpful things will start to come your way.

    So please, if you are stuck, seek help and keep going in the right direction. There’s hope and a better life – full of new dreams – waiting for you!

    Trust me. I myself have been through such challenging times. And this is why I feel the need to share this story with you. Because, owing to my journey, I now know that there’s help available and better times are possible. You just have to walk your path. Trust your gut, it will guide you.

    Yours, Sebastian

  • Trust your gut. It’s your compass

    Let me tell you a short story on the importance of following your gut. Many people – like me for a long time – are caught in their mind and often have difficulties making decisons. Or sometimes they make decisions that are not in their best interest – and/or their fellow human beings.

    Very young kids don’t have this problem. They have a very strong inner compass that tells them what they like and dislike. You can easily see this, when it comes to food. They tell you right away “More, more!” or “F*** off, I won’t eat this!”. And that’s not simply a mind thing, but their body telling them, what they need and what not.

    Very often, harsh education and upbringing teaches us humans to disregard our inner compass and instead follow rules that are imposed upon us by parents and society. In the first years of our lives, these people are mainly our parents and other attachment figures. Thus, we – unfortunately – start to disregard our compass and instead tend to satisfy other people’s expectations. Not very good, I can tell you.

    These – often enforced – expectations and rules are then internalized and we start to follow such “programs” which are then engrained in our heads. Rather than following our gut …. and that’s when the troubles start.

    I was caught in my head for decades and I can tell you this is tiring. Luckily, I started to unearth my gut feeling again (with loads of help from others) and now I can say that my compass is very strong. It is guiding me safely through the turmoils of life. I still need my mind though to counterbalance my sometimes strong emotions.

    As the saying goes:

    “The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master.”

    Old Asian Proverb

    See this article on it for some more, short, but valuable information on the balance between feelings and the mind. I wish you all the best for unearthing your compass and then steering through the journey of life. Once you get to the balance of gut and mind … life can be fun! Trust me 😇