About Us Humans

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  • Live a life according to your soul

    Live a life according to your soul

    We humans often tend to align our life to external expectations. We yearn for validation and try to live a life of which we think is best for us. However, most often we follow patterns and goals that are imposed on us by society, by our family, and by fellow humans. As a result, we might feel like robots. At least I did for a long time. Replacable and without a deeper sense of meaning.

    Once we truly realize that each of us is very unique we can slowly leave behind this rat race and the permanent longing to be like others, whom we think are successful and happy.

    The photocopier was certainly not God’s idea, because He only produces originals!

    — Deborah Rosenkranz

    True happiness doesn’t come to you by chasing status symbols or being like others, but by living a life that is true to and in sync with your unique and innermost being. That is, you don’t need to buy a house or a shiny car, just because others do. If it truly makes you happy you can, but it is not a necessity any more. Then you are free to pursue things which make your soul really come to life. Things which are truly fulfilling because they resonate with you; these might be hobbies, talents, skills, passions, and people (who don’t pressure you into societies’ standards).

    If you tap into your soul, you will radiate joy and you will find that there’s a hidden and previously unknown source of energy within you. Life will become more satisfying and beautiful. Your environment might notice such a shift by your good vibes and contagious authenticity. Your eyes might start to sparkle, you might experience goose-bumps more frequently, and you will find that there’s much more to life than you would have expected.

    But please keep in mind to stay deeply humble and thankful for the change you are experiencing. Always remember your past and your time in the rat race. You might not have left it 100% behind, but once you start to take your first steps, you can (and this is my hope) inspire others to follow your example and leave any notion of peer pressure and societal expectations behind.

    Namaste! Sebastian

  • Trust your gut. It’s your compass

    Let me tell you a short story on the importance of following your gut. Many people – like me for a long time – are caught in their mind and often have difficulties making decisons. Or sometimes they make decisions that are not in their best interest – and/or their fellow human beings.

    Very young kids don’t have this problem. They have a very strong inner compass that tells them what they like and dislike. You can easily see this, when it comes to food. They tell you right away “More, more!” or “F*** off, I won’t eat this!”. And that’s not simply a mind thing, but their body telling them, what they need and what not.

    Very often, harsh education and upbringing teaches us humans to disregard our inner compass and instead follow rules that are imposed upon us by parents and society. In the first years of our lives, these people are mainly our parents and other attachment figures. Thus, we – unfortunately – start to disregard our compass and instead tend to satisfy other people’s expectations. Not very good, I can tell you.

    These – often enforced – expectations and rules are then internalized and we start to follow such “programs” which are then engrained in our heads. Rather than following our gut …. and that’s when the troubles start.

    I was caught in my head for decades and I can tell you this is tiring. Luckily, I started to unearth my gut feeling again (with loads of help from others) and now I can say that my compass is very strong. It is guiding me safely through the turmoils of life. I still need my mind though to counterbalance my sometimes strong emotions.

    As the saying goes:

    “The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master.”

    Old Asian Proverb

    See this article on it for some more, short, but valuable information on the balance between feelings and the mind. I wish you all the best for unearthing your compass and then steering through the journey of life. Once you get to the balance of gut and mind … life can be fun! Trust me 😇

  • Embrace the variety of creation

    Owing to my upbringing and my parents, I often used to frown upon other people who would not fit into my narrow worldview or would not live up to my standards. This included (inferior) job positions, clothing, hair styles, furniture, and much more. All of this in a seeming attempt to elevate my brittle ego (I was suffering from a narcisstic personality disorder back then).

    Thanks to the development of a more tolerating and healthier consciousness over the last few years, this has slowly but surely changed. I now can look at others and appreciate their differences instead of condemning them; I learned that each and everyone of us is a part of the grand mosaic of creation. How boring it would be, if human beings were all the same.

    Thus, embrace the variety!